How Taking Responsibility for Every Circumstance Completely Changed my Life
By: Divya Darling
July 8, 2019
I take responsibility for every circumstance in my life. Do you?
Ever been in a rocky relationship where you felt frustrated more often than fulfilled?
How about feeling trapped in a job you don’t enjoy but don’t have enough money to leave?
Have you ever looked in the mirror and thought “ughhh” at the face you see staring back at you?
None of these experiences are ones that we desire, but most of us have experienced them, haven’t we? I’ve certainly had them all.
They’re not a part of my current experience because I’ve done the inner work to change my outer world. That’s what I’m inviting you to do today. Because when we change our outer world- our circumstances – it doesn’t provide true, lasting change. I’ll give you an example.
Let’s say we’re in a relationship and we feel like that person doesn’t respect us, so we leave that relationship. Then what happens? We end up in another relationship where that same pattern repeats itself. Why? Because we haven’t addressed the real issue. Most can relate to this.
When I worked out that the cause and the solution to every single problem I was having was ME- first it was incredibly terrifying. And then second, it was incredibly liberating. Terrifying because I am the cause of all the issues in my life and it takes real courage to admit that and acknowledge that. It was also liberating because unless we’re willing to take ownership of something – total responsibility for something – we can’t change it.
Liberating because I admitted that it is actually my responsibility. Notice how I didn’t use the word fault because I’m not ascribing blame here. If I knew better, I would have done better, and I didn’t. Though I recognised it was my responsibility to make a change, if I wanted a different outcome, then I had to do something differently. So, that’s what I made a commitment to do: learning the inner workings of my mindset so I could learn to enjoy life more fully.
If you don’t wake up each day feeling fulfilled, content, a sense of delight – dare I say giddiness and glee at the life that you get to lead – let me tell you dear: something is amiss. And the beauty is that something is something that only you can change.
It really helps to have useful information to make those adjustments. That’s the first step. That’s why I’m inviting you to Befriend Your Brain. It’s a free five day challenge, beginning on 15th July. In this challenge, you will learn some useful information that’s been so transformative in my life. I suspect you’ll get a lot out of it.
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