The Gifts of Feedback
By: Divya Darling
August 30, 2019
Last week I had an experience I heard described as “catastrophic” and “a disaster.”
I would not pick either of those interpretations, though I can certainly see how that experience could warrant those labels…
I co-delivered a training where the audience was simply not picking up what we were putting down. Never in my life have I experienced that degree of disengagement. And in fact, when the feedback forms were returned at the end of the 45 mins and they were the lowest I’ve ever seen, it only confirmed what I’d been experiencing throughout the workshop in the glares and phone usage.
Suffice to say, it didn’t go well. I’d have to be blind and energetically numb to think it did. And yet, I still think last week’s workshop was an absolute blessing. A treasure beyond belief. Wanna know why?
There is no failure, only feedback.
This is the foundational principle of Your Success Code. It’s the first in 50 Focus Sheets, each containing an essential element of a success mindset. Because without it, there’s a feeling of discouragement and disheartenedness.
Staying firmly grounded in this belief that there is no failure, only feedback allows us look for the learning in any context. And I promise you this: anything we sincerely seek we find because as good ol Rumi says “What you seek is seeking you.”
I discovered SO much from the training last week – quite possibly more than I’ve ever learned from delivering any one training before. But rather than share the content of my insights which will only be relevant to you if you’re a facilitator, it’s far more impactful for me to share the structure because that you can most certainly leverage in your own life no matter what.
And that’s my encouragement to you today. Bring to mind an experience you might be tempted to label “terrible” and ask yourself this question from a calm and curious space: “What have I learned from this that will serve me well in the future?”
Because the truth is we all F up. It’s just part of being human. When we remind ourselves “there is no failure, only feedback” we stay gracious with ourselves throughout the process.